P*A*I*N

Trying not to update this blog as late as I did in August, but suffice to say I’m in a lot of ✨P A I N✨ right now.

Physically and emotionally, and the source of my pain might be the same.

Long story short I suffer from hallucinations every so often and my doctor once said they could be the cause of my headaches.

Emotionally: these hallucinations bring up a ex I was with once in my life, and they tell me how much she hates me and she’s suicidal etc etc.

I still have feelings for her, I know I do but I have to try to numb myself, given the circumstances.

It makes it hard to move on as well, try to find someone new, when it’s quite literally a 24/7 reminder.

I am taking medications, all is not lost, but I wish there was a cure.

Talking Points

I’ve been really active on Twitter, but Twitter isn’t the best place for ideas or conversation points greater than a single paragraph.

I’m just going to write some things down here, that I’ve been thinking about and putting on Twitter, and maybe I’ll revisit these topics in the future:

The European Slave Trade: If what North Africans and “Western Asian” people did to Europeans so long ago is a fact of reality, and trauma can be passed on from generation to generation, I feel like it makes sense for the “anti-black” culture we see today in the world. This doesn’t excuse racism, we should be treating everyone with love and respect, ideally, however, if a European guy saw a Moor slaughter his entire village and turn his wife into a concubine, and then forced him to have kids, and somehow, those same feelings can be passed down through their genes, like it’s “instincts” to avoid this person, does it correlate that white people of today, react the same way towards the black people of today?

This is getting messy.

But if they respond like this, and then inflict that same trauma on the black people of today, in the event that black people rise out of the vice grip of the dominant people, and “history repeats itself” doesn’t it seem like this is just a cycle of revenge?

A Tradition of Trauma?

We did this to them, it affects them to a point that they do it to us, we rise up, only to do it back again, to them?

I know it’s hard to imagine but, the cycle must be broken.

From how I see it, all races/nationalities/ethnic groups are fractured in the current political climate, be it language barriers, skin tone or even how they cook.

What a time to be alive.

That’s all.

I’m back

OMFG, HI, TO ANYONE WHO READS THIS, HOW ARE YOU!?

ME!? ME?!?!!? I’ve literally just been Playing Loop Hero for DAYS ON END now and I beat the Game and one of the Secret Bosses yesterday and today.

Anyway, I’m back from that high and headache, romanticizing e-girls while dreading the fact that it is almost certain that next month I will begin working mother fucking 64 hour work weeks.

The Good News? I create a tentative schedule so I can work and still participate in my online classes for my associates degree.

The Bad News?

I’M WORKING 64 HOURS A FUCKING WEEK!!!!!!

There’s A LOT I could go into about it but, just pray for me.

I’m going to start up another game, or at least try to finish it but not as AGGRESSIVELY as I played Loop Hero. Man just typing the title makes me want to go back and play… Jesus. Really, what I’m thinking of trying to do is beat another Secret Boss and get the last few dialogue trees of the Final Boss, but it’s honestly not too important, just something I could jump into when I’m bored…

With all the said, I’ve been setting up my Twitch channel, and trying to think of ways to make this “influencer” life more uh, portable I guess.

More details in the coming months tho, later.

...Am I the Problem?

What’s up party people in the place to be! I know, I haven’t written anything here in a while but I was thinking as I do, and I started having these thoughts like “I would treat her better, I know how to take care of a girl like that” along those lines and I had to take a step back and say “HOLD THE FUCK ON, WHERE IS THIS COMING FROM???”

I’ve decided to be celibate for a while now, as I work on myself physically, emotionally, etc. I’ve been comfortable with this and I’ve been expressing my comfort with myself to people I feel closest to in life, because I’m at a place where I don’t have to prove anything to anyone but myself, right? That’s how I see it.

So, when those thoughts grazed my frontal lobe it was a quick, easy catch, because that’s not who I am, that’s not who I want to be, that’s not who I choose to be. So what fucking gives???

I felt, fairly “egotistical,” that line of thinking, more so than what I already think I need to do to improve my quality of life. Felt very “Incel” and I’m not involuntarily celibate if I’m choosing celibacy, right? So that was weird.

But I think it comes down to my current, or the friend group I have right now that I talk to the most. Basically, I’m disillusioned with them, I hold them in less regard than I did when I first met them, and while it’s me that people usually outgrow, this time, the tables seem to have turned.

I find myself now, desiring more and more to work on personal projects, and things that are important to me, things that make me feel good, and not performative or empty gestures to keep this friend group, friends.

There’s a good number of us in the group chat but really, like 3-4 of us regularly talk to one another, it’s almost like what’s the point sometimes, because most days the chat devolves into arguments, and people can’t be bothered to read what was said or they just don’t care. I don’t know, but I do know I don’t want to talk to people that don’t care about what I have to say. My time would literally be better just doing this, blogging, out into the void.

So, as I update a game on my phone that’s taking 3.3GB to download, I realize I’ve been thinking about this for a long time now, more than a month, but I don’t know how to break the news to them. Granted, someone form the chat could read this blog and share it with everyone else, but I’d bet $50 that it wouldn’t happen, not even by the end of next week, unless this is God’s plan at this point.

Anyway, playing more Monster Hunter, trying to be consistent with drawing, and I feel like I’m actually getting more comfortable with procreate, with the movement of my hand and the feel of the Apple Pencil on Glass. It’s activating the reward and pleasure centers of my brain lol

Write Something Reminder 7/3/2022

Uh, I don’t have much to get off my chest in this one, I don’t even think I’ll share it to facebook, but maybe I will, idk.

I just wanted to write something more than a tweet, really get into the habit of writing more often.

Writing out my thoughts like that really seems to get the juices flowing, but, it’s 4:38AM and I’m at work, I’m not in a comfortable relaxed environment where I can produce a solid essay, a good few paragraphs, so I’ll get to the point:

I’m working on a video game.

I will start making art with traditional mediums again, and not just digital.

I’m not celebrating the 4th of July this year, I’m going to work.

Cya!

"Write Something!" Notification: 1/1/2022

Hey Party People in the place to be! It’s ya’boi!

So A LOT has been going on, and thinking about it now I didn’t say enough about what’s been going on (here) BUT! I’ve been vocal as all hell on instagram (@yahomied)

First things first: Abortion should be Legal, EVERYWHERE.

And now that I’ve stopped being flooded with waves of rage and violence I think I can finally take a construction course of action to help sway policy makers on their rulings. Hopefully.

SECOND!

I have some artwork up at the Piano Craft Gallery ( 793 Tremont St, Boston, MA 02118 ) for I suppose, the next 7-Days or so? I’ll have to see when I can go and pick my work back up again but yeah, first kind of, “real life” art experience, which is cool! What I wish though is that I had more work to put on display that I was proud of. I mean I was limited to 5 but thinking about it now, while I shy away from being in a gallery, having to prepare and make work for one was an experience that filled me with ADRENALINE, and while I couldn’t be at the show myself, HOPEFULLY! I’ll be at a show in the future. You can CLICK HERE to see the work that is on display.

It’s been a rough few days filled with miracles honestly and I find myself in awe at the God I’ve named Entropy, as he/she/it displays that sometimes it’s “Randomness” can be a string of fortunate events.

I’ve been telling my friends I love them, working out, paying my bills on time, and outside of working 6 days a week, genuinely thriving, or at least surviving long enough to make it to a point where I can relax, decompress, and be stress free, and those periods where I’m stressed seem to get shorter and shorter, which also feels amazing.

This is really just me reflecting on the last 72 hours, this new exercise that I’d been avoiding, “Write Something,” and marking as “Complete” even if the only thing I wrote for the evening was a tweet on my Twitter, which TECHNICALLY checks off the box but, tonight I wanted to write something with a bit more substance.

Met some pretty cool people earlier during my shift at work as well, artists popping up left and right, it’s like I’ve begun to find my “tribe” in a sense. It’s just been so, incredible. It’s really hard to describe, even though the country is in turmoil in some sense (when isn’t it?) And me personally, I’m not celebrating SHIT on the 4th of July (my ass is going to work) but I suppose there are diamonds in the rough, good in the bad.

The larger issues I can’t fix on my own, but my own life just keeps getting better and better.

That New Sh*t!

Hey gang, I know I usually post once a month but I put a reminder on my phone to “write something.”

It could be a blog (like this one) a poem, (which I did recently just write, fulfilling that reminder so technically I don’t have to write this but, whatever) or an essay or some notes.

I wanted to update this blog however, and as a teen I used to blog a ton! It’s freeing, relaxing, and since the reminder is at the end of my work shift, 11PM, I realized it really lets me recollect and decompress my day, think about what I did right or wrong and help me work on my strengths and weaknesses, and I like that!

Of course, because it’s not a “once a month” blog anymore, updates may not be as meaty, lengthy. It could just be short blurbs that end abruptly but I’ll try to avoid things like that, I hope.

Anyway, that’s all I wanted to say!

Peace, Love and Coffee Mugs!

Going through it.

What’s up party people in the place to be? Ya’boi is EXHAUSTED.

I have plans and projects to take care of but my mental health is on the fritz.

I said it in a post on instagram but I have “schizo affective disorder” which basically means I hear voices in my head. Don’t worry, I’m taking my medication and this just kind of feels like a small flare up and not anything that could admit me to the hospital, again.

What I want to do now is get more consistent with drawing digitally, right now I’m just trying to think of the best day to tackle drawing. I spend much of my time working, effectively working 6 days a week right now and on the 7th day, ya’boi rests, lol, so that means I’m drawing and writing usually during the work day, I’m not focusing on things with my full attention, and I feel like that hinders me.

All in all I’m just trying to do the best with what I got right now. Might start a new project for this blog too, but I don’t want to put too much on my plate just yet, we’ll see! I’ll keep you posted!

Later Gators.

Oh yeah…

May 1st Blog


It’s 3:45AM on April 30th the year 2022.


And e-girl on twitch in a different time zone is on your smart tv as you listen to jazz to substitute for the sound effects and music for a video game, a mobile game you’re playing on your phone that’s notorious for its “pay to win” formula, but your friends still play it, so you do too. 


It feels like the world is on fire. The 1% control the media, people want you to believe they’re you’re saviors, others claim all information, true or false is good information, Russia is at War with Ukraine, the country you live in wants to see you fail, and you think you’ve outgrown your current friend group, and that it would be much better to seclude yourself and only associate with people online. You’re used to that though, you’ve done it before. 


You want to help, but you don’t know how, and everyone seems to think it’s hopeless to even try, to even think about it, that it would be better to live for yourself as society crumbles around you, and from its ashes, somehow, in someway, people will realize they need to come together, and work together to build a better way of life. Yeah fucking right, when they couldn’t even put a piece of cloth over their own face to help prevent other people from dying, when they hide behind cartoon characters as profile pictures and openly spew racism, just because their favorite, fictional, and in no way or will ever be real, cartoon character, has had their skin colored brown.


You’ve read through 3 religious texts, 4 of the Torah is really just the Old Testament of the Bible, and the Qu’ran says that God leads them astray on purpose, that even the Prophet Mohammed can’t save these people, can’t show them Gods light, can’t convince them to change their ways, and to not bother. 


You pick another e-girl who’s virtually “dating” her followers on stream, for a fee, because some people think of you want to talk to them that badly, they might as well get paid for it.


Is this dystopia? Is this what progress looks like? Has it always been this terrible? According to History, yes, yes it has been, as long as you weren’t ever the dominant class.


It’s not all bad though. You still have a job, it’s paying well, and you’re going to start therapy. You have new motivation for making art, and the only bad thing is that you can’t seem to get a date, but you aren’t trying to get one either. Paying $3 for a photo of a strangers butthole seems to do the trick, as long as it’s a new butthole every 2 weeks or so. 


But you think about her from time to time. You just read an article about the country she lives in just to see if it would trigger you, and it does. You feel like you still love her, that you still want to be held, you want to kiss her, to lay in her arms, someone’s arms and let go of the madness that isn’t madness, but what feels like some other worldly moral force compelling you to resolve the unresolved, with what little power you have, because you have power, SOME POWER, it just feels like it isn’t enough. 


So here you are, the jazz music has stopped and the fan in your room is the only thing keeping you from overheating as you burn emotionally, burn and yearn for change so hot you think you can feel it on your skin, like the hair on your knuckles could char a steak. 


Burning. Day after Day. Twenty Four Seven. Three Sixty Five.


…Don’t forget your moms birthday is next week.

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This blog is time stamped, that was the original blog and it was going to be the only thing I wrote but, now, as I try to fall asleep, coffee still flowing through my veins from working the overnight shift I seem to be recalling all my feelings from the week. My weekends are cut short now, I’m effectively working 6 days a week at the moment but I’d honestly rather be doing this than risking getting COVID, again.

I’ve been trying to describe my emotions to myself, and to the void, as I prepare for therapy.

As I like to describe it, my naive and possibly overly optimistic idea that everyone is capable of change and becoming better has constantly been under fire these last 2 or 3 weeks. Just direct messages from religious text, people, astrology, and so on that you can really only do so much, and if a person is unwilling to change you can’t change them.

I don’t know where I got it in me that I should try my utmost to display another perspective to the blind. I don’t know what it is that makes me think there’s hope for the future. These are just things that I feel, and, this isn’t something I’m afraid or wary of, in terms of confirmation bias. I need something to cling to, I suppose. A reason to keep going that isn’t wholly self-serving.

But, as I think I wrote previously (I did not re-read nor did I proof read that earlier passage) the trap of nihilism is ever present.

an encroaching darkness, steadily enveloping all even in the light of the sun.

it just drives me mad.

But I’ve been better recently, I’ve found this new, creative spark, to do the work that needs to be done to make something great, something I want to say I’m proud of.

And digger deeper it’s like, now I have a new perspective of how monumental a task is to make a triple A video game. You know, some are easier than others, but I was staring at a Elden Ring video before I left work, and it just occurring to me, all the writing, the coding, the 3D modeling for merely one, TINY aspect of the larger world. It’s really incredible. Teams of people do it, it’s no wonder these projects cost millions of dollars.

it makes my chest swell to think id try and jump into that category of “creative.” I’m not sure I could do everything on my own, but it feels like that when I don’t think hard enough about who I could reach out to for assistance.

before I forget, about rather being at work than “enjoying life” and having a higher chance to actually fucking die:

My buddies want to go to Anime Boston this year… this is what I wrote:

”Once again, I don’t care. I’m only interested in people that actually go, people that want to meet other people. If something like that isn’t on the docket then fuck the whole thing. They can bring other dudes I don’t care if there’s another guy I’m just looking for people that share a common interest as for right now.

I’m going to spend $100 dollars to get in, walk around, and see shit I already know about or buy shit I can buy somewhere else much cheaper I feel like every year I go and the goal is to just spend more money and I don’t get anything in return and my house just has less and less space.

I have to cut that shit out at the source.

For me, if I’m not going to meet anyone else, if the “majority” crowd is racist and antisocial I just don’t want to be near them. I don’t give a fuck about how good their fan art is either. ✌️”

Essentially I’m saying, I don’t want to pay $100 to go to a convention just to spend more money when I get in. What I’m really looking for is to meet people with a shared interest as myself, but Anime Boston does have a “meet and greet” room or even a sign up sheet where people could share a picture of themselves in or out of cosplay and list their favorite anime of all time and what they like to talk about etc etc.

And yeah, I know, everyone is a “nerd” or a “geek” I get it, I enjoy these nerd and geek things too but I think I’m just not a part of that social sphere anymore. And I like hanging out with my friends even though all we do is argue in the group chat but I think I spent like $400 on the showroom floor at Anime Boston 2019 and I don’t want to do that again. I am in no way excited to do that, over 3 days, or spend even more.

Humbled

I’m not writing this on April 1st, although this blog will be published then.

The current date is 3/24/22 that is to say, March 24th, 2022, 2:15PM / 14:15.

I’m sitting in the cafe up the street from my job.

Recently I’ve just come across the idea, the concept that I don’t know enough. To be fair, I also don’t care to know more than I already do, unless it is really interesting, or can improve my quality of life.

This is really only a concern in discussions about politics, mostly, because right now, during the conflict of the Russian invasion of Ukraine, many people, namely, Americans have brought up the hypocrisy of America and its own history of warfare and war crimes.

I can’t wrap my head around it. I recall an erstwhile lover saying “people that have no problems make problems for themselves.” I’m beginning to see truth in her words.

This isn’t to say that America is a perfect country with no flaws, and everyone should feel and know they are privileged to have been born and are able to afford to live here, but to act as if it’s the worst place in the world is also, incredibly naive, in my opinion.

Like when they say “don’t bite the hand that feeds you,” I feel like a lot of them are biting the hand.

And as I’ve already stated, I don’t know enough, if I know anything at all, but that doesn’t change the fact that regardless of all the bad press America gets from well, Americans, people still emigrate here. What do you make of them? Are they stupid in your opinion? Is it unfortunate that they couldn’t afford better? Which country is, in your opinion “better” ?

The way I see it, there is no country without blemish, no country without its cover up, and no country, or few countries where the value of its currency is great, far and wide. Not to mention the idea of other countries being “homogenous” which to me, implies that it’s harder to make social connections, friends, get married, and fit in, culturally, if you aren’t

A) A “desired” or “fetishized” by the people and that culture

B) Don’t look like them, speak like them, understand them culturally, or have family there. And even if you do have family there’s no guarantee you’ll get along.

I mean, if these countries were so much better, where’s there ads for being “melting pots” for having “greater opportunities to excel” ? The most I see are these endless articles about the Nordic countries with their “happiness index” and “millionaires,” but 1 million Krone does not hold the same value as 1 million USD, even if it’s easier to obtain. And even still you can find forums of people speaking much differently about their experiences in their homeland than what you see in articles. And where do you go from there?

An article making broad, wide sweeping claims? Or and individual, or many individual, albeit, anecdotal yet nuanced opinions from a real person, a citizen.

Of course it falls upon your own shoulders to discern for yourself, but this stresses me out, all the same.

I would like to say, I’m not the most patriotic American either, and frequently, during my life up until maybe two months ago, I’d regularly thinking about becoming and ex-pat. My countries of choice were Norway, Japan, and most recently, Denmark.

Going back into not knowing everything, and how much money this would realistically cost, I realized, it would be easy to run away from the problems I face in America, also being a Black, African American citizen, or at least of African descent. The mental toll it takes to process information in the news, in protests, in rhetoric is enough to make you want to lose consciousness, at will. But onward I stride.

Back to my point though, yes, running away would be easy, however, if I am so dissatisfied, like the many people marching and protesting, is there something I can do as well, to help push forward, meaningful change? Change for the better? Help America become more progressive?

Being one person, taking this task on alone is in fact, insurmountable. However, there are channels, facilities of not, institutions that can help aid your movement or help you find ways to take steps forward, whether you know of them or not. I’ve discovered that you’re never truly alone, the White House does in fact have a portal where you can write to the President, or different branches of government operating in the White House, and other branches of government have contact forms as well. I know first hand that the White House at least reads and responds to inquiries, albeit, on a case by case basis. I’ve submitted two things to the White House and only one was responded to, so, there’s that, but it’s important to attempt to be, or at least introduce the change you want to see. That’s how I think about it, anyway.

Its been about an hour and thirteen minutes since I began typing this and walked into work, so I don’t have the same train of thought, but I’d like to conclude for now with I’ve decided to take the initiative in multiple ways.

I started and stopped with submitting ideas to the President, NASA, the EPA, the Department of Justice and the Army but now, I want to incorporate financial assistance as well.

As of right now there are no bodies of government, politicians or organizations that I feel comfortable donating to.

I am however considering donating to some animal rescue initiatives, people I come across going through hard times whether that’s on social media or in person, or to places where the value of my dollar reaches further than it does here in America. And also some handouts to friends that they don’t have to pay back.

I figured, I missed the boat on having kids, and I’m not in a place where I’ve decided that I need to have to them as to knock off a milestone for adult life or some shit. Fuck that. If I must contribute to society, for now, this is how I’ll go about doing just that.